Oddly enough I have been feeling lonely this winter. I say oddly because I am hardly ever alone and have enough amazing friends to fill my time and life. I have thought that maybe I need a hug or someone to chat with, but I have done that and nothing changed. I still feel lonely, so I decided to make a list.
Here are five reasons you (and I) are feeling lonely this winter.
1) Pride and Prejudice. I have watched this movie so many times that I have lost count. This movie, and many other like it, is the main reason I am feeling lonely. Once you learn about Mr. Darcy all you can hope for is the day you will find yours. Especially when it is dark and cold, and your world seems to be spinning, you just want a Mr. Darcy to hold your hand and remind you that it will all get better in time.
Solution: Stop watching period dramas, romantic comedies and anything Jennifer Aniston is in. Those types of movies only leads the heart to grow delusional and sad, which combined only leads to odd feelings of loneliness.
2) Valentines Day. I think all humans have an internal clock for valentines day. Once January 14 roles around we all become hyper aware of the thing happening in a month, and those of us who are single become hyper aware of our situation. After all who doesn’t want the option of spending dollars on dinner and a teddy bear in the name of love.
Solution: Stop thinking about valentines day and instead think of February 15, when your friends with boyfriends share their chocolate with you.
3) Your Room/apartment. Winter means cold, and snow, and frigid temperatures and putting on three layers of clothes just to walk to the neighbors. So you don’t. You sit in your room listening to pandora “Love Songs” radio station and stalking friends on facebook.
Solution: Get out of your room/ apartment. Stop listening to John Mayer, put on all three sweaters and spend the evening with your friends not facebook.
4) That couple. You know the one that has matching hats and who always seem to be sharing a cup of hot cider in the coffee shop while you are trying to catch your friends up on how you get through the long nights. That couple that never seems to be cold since the proximity of their bodies to each other means scientifically they are always warm.
Solution: Get hot cider and matching hats with a friend. If you can’t beat them, join them.
5) School. Is school harder in the winter? Some would argue that professors get meaner when the temperature drops below 20 degrees, and therefore assign all that reading just to spite you. Also after winter break and being with your family it can seem very lonely coming back to school– which unlike your mother never surprises you with pancakes for breakfast.
Solution: I don’t have one yet, school can be a downer.
